This is the most vulnerable page on my site...
I have been in 'leadership' roles for as long as I can remember. From youth group leadership teams to becoming the captain of my volleyball team in college.
At 20, I started leading a high school group of over 100 students. I had no idea that I had no idea what I was doing.
At 22, fresh out of college and newly married, I was hired to help lead a young adult group at a large church. I had my own Personal Assistant. I had a team of 4 or 5 people who reported to me. I spoke to large groups on a regular basis. Many people told me how great I was and I made the mistake of believing everything they said...because it felt really great!
At 25, I moved to Paris, France to work with an international team. Nobody on the team knew of (or seemed to care) about my past experience or successes. To be honest, this was the best thing for me. I learned that character matters more than reputation...but this was a hard lesson.
At 30, I began leading a project in Barcelona, Spain. I always wanted to 'be a leader' because I thought it would validate me or in some way would help me feel like I had lived up to all the praise others had given. To make a long story very short: This experience did not go as planned and I felt like I failed.
At 35, I came back to the US and began a career in creative services. I have loved helping businesses grow in creativity and tell their story in effective ways. That's what most of this website is all about. But at the same time, I long for all of the lessons I've learned through 4 international moves, 17 years of marriage, raising 4 great kids, many successful and failed projects, and 13 years of leadership development to be shared and make a difference in the lives of young leaders. This is why...
Two things I learned about real leadership that I didn't know when I got started:
1. Leading is rarely glamorous.
2. Leading is often very lonely.
If you're a leader, you know this to be true. You've probably learned there are few people you can be truly honest with. You've felt like the 'bad guy' for making decisions that weren't popular. Your decisions have been criticized by those you lead but you can't tell them all of the factors in the decision because you've learned that transparency can have endless unintended consequences.
I can't speak for every leader, but I can say with confidence that one of the biggest factors in staying sane throughout my journey was having people to talk to who have walked the path ahead of me. They assured me that I wasn't a failure. I wasn't alone. And that to be a real leader meant I had to be willing to make the next decision and take the next step.
Contact me if you're interested in learning about my coaching relationships. We can meet up for a 'no strings attached' coffee to get to know each other. I use a Strength-based approach when processing your leadership issues and ask questions to help you process the things that often bounce around in your head. I'm not a 'know it all' leadership guru....and don't want to be. But I do believe my experience and insight will help you find long-term and sustainable success...otherwise, I wouldn't have made this page on my site. (Which I almost didn't, but I am so passionate about helping young leaders succeed, that I'd be betraying myself not to put this out there.)
You're more than welcome to use the form below or give me a call at: (971) 202-6560.
I look forward to connecting with you!